The Quiz Scoring
System takes into account not only what you think about the
issues raised in Knowing Me, Knowing You, but also
how strongly each part of the couple feels about these issues.
For each question, you will identify the level of agreement,
and whether or not each person cares about the issue. Use
the links above to score each chapter.
The program
then calculates a Potential Conflict Score. There
are several basic scenarios.
The
couple is in complete agreement. In this case, whether
either cares strongly about the issue is not important.
There is no conflict.
The
couple disagrees, but one or both of them does not care
about the issue. In this case, even if one half
of the couple cares deeply about the issue, the other,
who doesn't care, will let them have their way, reducing
the potential for conflict.
The
couple disagrees, and both of them care about the issue.
In this case, there is a high probability of conflict.
The level of disagreement and the strength of the feelings
selected allows the program to calculate the Potential
Conflict Score.
Couples
should pay special attention to issues with a high Potential
Conflict Score. Resolving these issues will help them
to build a strong marriage. If you can't resolve them
alone, seek out a counselor or pastor to help.
Sample
Question
What Does The Couple Think
About This Question? Compare Your Answers.
How Important Is This Issue
to Her?
How Important Is This Issue
to Him?
1
How To Choose
Your Answer
There
are two types of questions, fact-based and opinion questions.
For
a fact-based question, such as Do you come from a divorced
home?, choose the answer in How Important Is This
Issue to Her/Him based on how you feel the difference
might affect your marriage.
For
opinion-based questions such as Do you believe that
divorce is ever right?, choose based on the strength
of your feelings about the issue.
Example
Claire
parent's divorced when she was a teen while Ivan's parents
are still married. When they answer Question 1
in Chapter 15, Do you come from a divorced home?, Claire
and Ivan will select Our Answers Are Completely Different.
When it comes to rating the importance of the issue, Ivan
selects It Doesn't Matter Much To Me, not because he
is not sympathetic to Claire's sadness when her parents divorced,
but because he does not think it will affect their relationship.
Claire recently read a newspaper article that expressed concerns
that children of divorced parents had more challenges in forming
a solid marriage. She selected I'm Concerned About
This. Their potential conflict score was 22%.
Click
on the links above to access the quiz scoring pages for different
chapters.
Privacy Statement
The answers
you give in the quiz are not tracked or recorded in any way.
Note that we do not request your email address or any personal
information. You must print out both your selected answers
and the results in order to keep a record of your answers.